Pamela Higer-Polani
The Letter "E"...
Okay, I admit it. I have difficulty with the Letter, “E”.
This seemingly innocuous vowel begins a lot of words that cause issues.
Words like “excitement”, “endeavor” and “embarrassed”, all lead to other
multisyllabic bigger problems, known as “Entitlement”, “Expectations”,
“Emotional” and “Exhausting”! These are definitely seasonal adjectives, revealing
themselves more than “Uncle Bob” after he drank too many!
We often put so much pressure on ourselves and others during this time, that
by January even the most Effervescent and Eager amongst us find ourselves
crying and muttering in a dark corner.
Was kicking the cane out from an older person walking into a restaurant at the
same time as you really necessary just to get the last available table for your
family visiting from out of town?
Did you really need to take the only “Sweet Sally” doll on the shelf left for your
granddaughter, even though an underprivileged 6-year-old looked at it with
longing in her eyes?
How did screaming at your over-worked hairdresser, who has 2 other jobs just
to make ends meet, really make you feel just because he was unable to cut your
hair, even though you did not have an appointment set for the day before the
holiday started?
Why are you so worried about what your parents think about your home that
was decorated with love? These people changed your diapers and, let’s face it,
that is hard to recover from no matter what.
Most people create resolutions in January, often focusing on how to better
themselves, including lose weight, work more effectively, and meet new people.
I propose we disregard that method of self-improvement and instead create
new goals for ourselves, including graciousness, generosity and gratitude.
For instance, instead of talking to everyone you meet about the 30 people you
are hosting for the holiday meal, find an extra seat at your table to include at
least one more person, to enjoy the festivities with you. Many people are too shy
to admit they have no one with whom they can celebrate. Likewise, if you are
asked and have nowhere else to go, accept and feel blessed by the invitation!
Small steps to make each of us feel valued and cherished, rather than depleted
and depressed!
Next month, I will discuss consonants that bother me. However, for today,
let’s just replace “I with “You” and see how that goes…
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